Anonymous asked: Do you have any advice for binge eaters? sometimes i binge and i just want to do

• Manage stress. One of the most important aspects of controlling binge eating is to find alternate ways to handle stress and other overwhelming feelings without using food. These may include exercising, meditating, using sensory relaxation strategies, and practicing simple breathing exercises.
• Eat 3 meals a day plus healthy snacks.  Eating breakfast jump starts your metabolism in the morning. Follow breakfast with a balanced lunch and dinner, and healthy snacks in between. Stick to scheduled mealtimes, as skipping meals often leads to binge eating later in the day.
• Avoid temptation. You’re much more likely to overeat if you have junk food, desserts, and unhealthy snacks in the house. Remove the temptation by clearing your fridge and cupboards of your favorite binge foods.
• Stop dieting. The deprivation and hunger of strict dieting can trigger food cravings and the urge to overeat. Instead of dieting, focus on eating in moderation. Find nutritious foods that you enjoy and eat only until you feel content, not uncomfortably stuffed. Avoid banning certain foods as this can make you crave them even more.
• Exercise. Not only will exercise help you lose weight in a healthy way, but it also lifts depression, improves overall health, and reduces stress. The natural mood-boosting effects of exercise can help put a stop to emotional eating.
• Fight boredom.Instead of snacking when you’re bored, distract yourself. Take a walk, call a friend, read, or take up a hobby such as painting or gardening.
• Get enough sleep. If you’re tired, you may want to keep eating in order to boost your energy. Take a nap or go to bed earlier instead.
• Listen to your body.Learn to distinguish between physical and emotional hunger. If you ate recently and don’t have a rumbling stomach, you’re probably not really hungry. Give the craving time to pass.
• Keep a food diary. Write down what you eat, when, how much, and how you’re feeling when you eat. You may see patterns emerge that reveal the connection between your moods and binge eating.

• Get support. You’re more likely to succumb to binge eating triggers if you lack a solid support network. Talking helps, even if it’s not with a professional. Lean on family and friends, join a support group, and if possible consult a therapist.

I hope that helps you ♥

Anonymous asked: have you ever just wanted to end it just to make everything stop. every night is getting harder and i just dont think im strong enough to keep fighting it

 im sorry to hear you feel like this, but You need to keep staying strong, believe in yourself that you are strong and dont stop trying. things do get better, even if it takes its time, it will get better. Dont end it, whatever you may be ending (i have an idea what but,) dont end it. Pain stops after a while, it will be a long proccess, but be strong and keep your head high, you can make it through this, i believe you can. Talk to someone close to you, that you can trust and share how you feel with them, someone other than someone over the internet can be useful at times. and yes i have wanted to end everything many of times. be brave my dear, ♥

Anonymous asked: I can't seem to go a day without cutting or balling my eyes out since December/ Ive never been one to cry and now I just seem to break down all the time. I guess everything is finally catching up to me and I can't handle it. It's like I've gotten all my emotions back but I don't want them. This mont has been especially hard and everyday seems to be getting progresssively worse. Its just oo difficult

dont let things get to you, be a strong soldier, times like these are tough i know, but you must not cut, do not harm yourself in anyway, turst me its not worth it in the end, although it may seem like the only option, dont, just please dont hurt yourself.
Is there a reason to you breaking down all the time? has anything happened recently that may be triggering this? like one main reason? dont tell yourself its too difficult, keep assuring yourself that you can make it through this, make sure you keep your head high and be strong, for whatever hits you. Put yourself in a happy environment with the people you absolutely love, try and take your mind off things, maybe you should tell someone who is very close to you, that you can trust, how you are feeling, they may be able to help you and they can be with you every step of the way to help with your battles. I know they may seem uncontrolable, but throw those bad emotions away and try bring back the good. Dont let the bad ones take over again. Dont say you cant handle it, because i know you can, dont let negative thoughts take over. But what is the main trigger? what has happened so far this month which is making everything hard? i can maybe help you more if i know what that is, stay strong for now ♥

Anonymous asked: i read through your advice and you seem like an amazing person, whats your name? you give great advice :)

thankyou very much, but i would like to remain anonymous for the sake of peoples privacy. thankyou though :)

Anonymous asked: (part 2) me before i had time to explain. He hit me again tonight because we were at the gym tonight and a guy from one of my classes came up and talked to me. We are just acquaintances in class and in no way was this guy hitting on me. He was just being nice and even asked me about an assignment due next week. My bf told me I lead guys on.

okay, well you need to talk to him really seriously about this. you dont lead guys on, trust me you dont, dont listen to what he says about that. You need to explain to him that you are aloud to have acquaintances and friends that are guys, you need to tell him to calm down because things arent what he thinks things are, you need to explain to him how hitting you is hurting you and affecting you. Depending on how hard the hit was, this sounds like a form of assault, and assault against someone you love should not be tolerated. You really need to sit him down and talk to him about this, be very straight forward and firm. I  think he gets angry because he might be a bit worried of losing you to another guy, or he wnats to protect you or maybe its just a bit of jealousy, im not sure. If he still continues and gets worse, you need to tell him you will not tolerate this anymore, and something really needs to be done about this because you love him very much and dont want to lose him. He may re-think his doings, and fix himself up properly. For the sake of your relationship, soemthing needs to change in him. Good luck, i would like to hear more on this if you dont mind, so maybe get back to me and tell me how things go? stay strong beautiful :) xxx

Anonymous asked: I posted a question earlier about how my boyfriend has hit me twice now when he gets angry. He was angry because he saw that I got a text from a guy who I met a looong time ago asking how I was and saying he was coming to town, asking if he could see me. I haven't seen this guy since before I got together with my boyfriend, the guy had no way of knowing I had a boyfriend, and I didn't respond to the text. My bf got angry saying why would I give some guy my number and he was so worked up he hit

i will answer on the next part x

Anonymous asked: I changed schools at the start of 2011 and I met this one boy who has turned out to be my bestfriend. He's a total sweetheart, practically my brother. We tell each other basically everything!. And I love that he's always there for me to count on. But recently, we've just started hanging out with his OLD group of friends. They're dicks, and when he's with the with them, he acts like one too. I've tried talking to him, but he just laughs it off. I dont know what to do? I dont want to lose him xx

okay, first of all, you need to sit him down and speak to him and get it in his head. Maybe just you two go do something together for a day then at the end sit him down. You need to get it to him straight. Tell him how you feel, and what is happening to him, no matter how much he laughs it off, get it into his head. make sure he listens to you, you are his bestfriend and you need to tell him the truth. Maybe once you guys are good with eachother and he understands, maybe change friend groups. good luck :) x

Anonymous asked: I've had a boyfriend for a year now that I lost my virginity too. I'm completely in love with each other and know that we r meant to be. But, I don't know what to do because the other night he got really mad and hit me. I can't break up with him because I just know he's the one. I gave him my virginity and that's super important. He promised to never do it again but it happened again tonight. I'm scared to break up with him because I love him. Help?

Im sorry to hear about what he has done to you and i hope your alright. I just have a few questions to ask, did he apologise after he hit you? And you dont have to answer this but what was he getting so mad about that he had to hit you for?
If you know deep in your heart hes the one, well then he may just be. Couples have their fights, and they have their beautiful loving moments. This may just be a one off thing, or depending on what he got mad about, it could be a tender angryspot for him? Just answer the questions above for me and i might be able to help you a bit more x

kokorouge asked: I feel so lost, I'm 16 and i'm gay and I'm Hindu. I really want to hold onto my faith but I can't seem to figure out if my spiritual organization will accept me or not. I'm so alone all the time and I feel scared that everything i've ever known (youth group, the organization, my friends there) will be gone. I'm scared that if I let go I won't be happy anymore, I need God to be happy, but what if I can't belive and be gay? I'm so scared and terribly lonely. Please help.

I am not very expereienced with the Hindu religion, so i too am not sure if your spiritual organization will accept you or not. Have you got someone that you can talk to, someone you can trust? You are not alone though, you say you have a youth group and your friends there? they are there to support you, they are your friends for a reason, to be with you and to love and care for you. It may be a scary time, but all will come through in the end. Believe on your own accord if things get rough, as i said i am not experienced with Hindu relgions and organizations, so i am not sure what will happen there and i cannot help you the best with that. Friends will not leave you if they are true, im sure you have lovely friends, and they will stick with you no matter what. Dont let go, stay tight for as long as you can, people will eventually learn to respect you for who you are and love you for that. I am also here if you just need a chat on really rough times. be bold and brave :) x